Kids do the darndest things, don’t they? Whether expressing their opinions or trying to be more like us, they never fail to keep surprising us. That is especially true when they learn from us, and decide to follow our examples.
We just found a video of the cutest little boy who decided that he was ready to give himself a haircut. After seeing his dad shave his own head many times, the little tyke thinks he is ready to become a man. Of course, it does not end so well for his fashion sense, but it is funny to see. You are going to love this video clip when you watch it.
We thought this little kid was adorable, but it also made us wonder exactly how young children learn about themselves in relation to the world around them.
Writing for the website GracepointWellness.org, Angela Oswald says:
“During early childhood, children start to develop a “self-concept,” the attributes, abilities, attitudes and values that they believe define them. By age 3, (between 18 and 30 months), children have developed their Categorical Self, which is concrete way of viewing themselves in “this or that” labels. For example, young children label themselves in terms of age “child or adult”, gender “boy or girl”, physical characteristics “short or tall”, and value, “good or bad.” The labels are used to explain children’s self-concept in very concrete, observable terms. For example, Seth may describe himself this way: “I’m 4. I have blue eyes. I’m shorter than Mommy. I can help Grandma set the table!” When asked, young children can also describe their self-concept in simple emotional and attitude descriptions. Seth may go on to say, “Today, I’m happy. I like to play with Amy.” However, preschoolers typically do not link their separate self-descriptions into an integrated self-portrait. In addition, many 3-5 year olds are not aware that a person can have opposing characteristics. For example, they don’t yet recognize that a person can be both “good” and “bad”.
As long-term memory develops, children also gain the Remembered Self. The Remembered Self incorporates memories (and information recounted by adults about personal events) that become part of an individual’s life story (sometimes referred to as autobiographical memory). In addition, young children develop an Inner Self, private thoughts, feelings, and desires that nobody else knows about unless a child chooses to share this information.”
Oswald goes on to add:
“External factors, such as messages from other people, also color how children view themselves. Young children with parents, caregivers, and teachers providing them with positive feedback about their abilities and attempts to succeed (even if they aren’t successful the first time) usually have higher self-esteem. On the contrary, when parents, caregivers, or teachers are regularly negative or punitive toward children’s attempts to succeed, or regularly ignore or downplay those achievements, young children will have a poor self-image and a lower self-esteem.
Peers also have an impact on young children’s self-concept. Young children who have playmates and classmates that are usually nice and apt to include the child in activities will develop a positive self-image. However, a young child who is regularly left out, teased, or bullied by same-age or older peers can develop low self-esteem.”
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