I know I have great inner strength; I always have. I can blank things out, cut people out, and I know that I can go and live in a cave on my own if necessary. – Charlotte Rampling
If you’ve never heard of Ms. Rampling, she’s a prolific English actress that’s had an extremely successful career as an actress and model for over 50 years. She’s also an exceptional figure that segues into our next discussion on inner strength – something that others may see as an intimidating aspect of one’s personality.
It’s perhaps what Charlotte Rampling has done off the screen and out of the public eye that demonstrates her exceptional character. She’s been divorced twice, leaving her to raise two sons on her own. After finding love and being in a relationship for over 17 years, her partner passed away unexpectedly in 2015. She also showed tremendous strength in admitting her battle with depression.
Those that know Ms. Rampling attest to her tremendous strength. The same can be said about many of you reading this article, no doubt. What exactly makes for a strong or “intimidating” personality?
While there are numerous answers to this question, a common set of attributes can determine the strength of one’s personality…from how some of us converse to the ability to create opportunities where others may see impossibility.
It isn’t surprising that strong people detest the act of simple banter. Conversations that invite intellectual curiosity are welcome with open arms, while small talk is revolting to the utmost.
People with strong personalities are prone to let people know exactly what they think, including about irrelevant questions or other dialogue that accomplishes little to nothing. This is particularly true when working or concentrating on some other important task – strong personalities simply don’t have the time or inclination to engage in trivial conversations.
Needless to say, small talk is a big part of daily life in America. This is part of the reason that those who are repulsed by it can been seen as intimidating.
Generally speaking, strong people are well (often self) educated and possess a wide breadth of knowledge. This open-minded attitude often invites curiosity while promoting acceptance. Therefore, it is to be expected that strong people simply don’t accept the ignorant attitudes of others. They’ve done their best to learn as much as possible, and are willing to maintain an open mind to the differences of others.
Judgmental or artificial comments and behaviors are intolerable to the strong amongst us. These people also put in the time and effort to acquire knowledge in order to understand people and the world on a deeper level, and are irked by those who do not. Most notably, these people don’t require the consensus of others to determine whether or not their outlook is valid.
Strong people have a way of making opportunities without needing much assistance from others. This tremendous work ethic and ability to take advantage of opportunities can intimidate the less motivated, which can in turn invite hostility.
Whether or not they’re viewed as intimidating for being ambitious is irrelevant to strong people. Contemplating the hostile attitudes of those around them is even more so. Strong individuals are willing to recognize and work towards opportunities where others may not, and they make no apologies for it.
In a society that craves attention using the antics of drama, strong people could care less. While their tremendous work ethic and strength of character may invite attention – positive or negative – from the people around them, strong personalities don’t spend much time noticing. They almost certainly won’t spend precious time and effort seeking the attention of others.
Instead, strong people simply keep their collective heads down and do what needs to be done. These folks are happy and secure without the attention of others. They epitomize the old axiom “you actions speak so loudly, I can’t hear what you’re saying.”
Once again, strong people are notorious for keeping their heads down and doing what needs to be done – regardless of how unpleasant it may be. It’s no surprise then that people who waste time whining and complaining about trivialities are of no interest to them.
When a problem arises, someone with a strong personality will simply focus on what needs to be done to fix it. Why agonize over a problem or situation when one is powerless to control it? As someone who continuously strives to do the best he or she can, those that try to use them as a sounding board for meaningless complaints and pointless banter are quickly turned away.